Tuesday, August 12, 2014

Can Sex Solve Your Relationship Problems?

Believe me, I get relationship questions all the time.  But it's cool though.  Most of my early blogs covered relationship topics and I'll be the first to admit that I've strayed away from the issue somewhat. So when I was asked the question, if sex can resolve relationships woes?Well, I gotta tell ya, I had to jump on that. Pun intended, of course.

Look, we're all adults here; and we've all been in a relationship or two.. or eight.  Some of them were great and others not so much.  I imagine that they all started off with a bang before fizzling in disgust.  I can also go out on a limb and say that during that you probably argued more times than you thought you would have. Sometimes the rift was over money, and other times it was over something far more simple. I suppose that some of you were cheated on and some of you were caught doing the cheating. Either way, it started and then it ended. Even now a number of you still wonder if the relationship could have been salvaged; and to thought I have to say, if there was more sex involved then it probably wouldn't have ended as early as it did.

Remember Jody and Yvette from the movie Baby Boy? (if you haven't then you probably don't watch BET)  Anyway, the character Jody would give sexual favors to Yvette whenever he needed to put a band-aid on the couple's problems.  On the next day all would be okay...well, except for the time when Jody looked out of the window to discover that Yvette had taken the car the day after he serviced Yvette with some good ole oral.  But prior to that moment, his methods seemed to work. And I'm not exactly talking about make-up sex here (although that can be quite effective). I'm talking about routine sex, communicative sex, quality love-making, aggressive acts of lust, and all other means possible for two people to join together as one. Sharing sexually with your partner is indeed an absolute must!  And yes, it should also be done to resolve your relationship problems.

Okay, I know what your're thinking.  You've been watching Dr. Phil and he's been lecturing you on the importance of maintaining a verbal connection with your partner in effort to better understand the other's concerns.  Yes, it is very essential to communicate with your mate verbally.  But what about the physical connection which allows you to relate to one another intimately? What about engaging in activity that forces you both to lower your guard so that you can communicate without the anger and the attitude? You say that he never listens to you?  Well, take off your top! I'm sure you'll get his full of attention then.  And you sir, you say she's always nagging at you about taking out the garbage? Hell, drop your underpants. See if that whole "taking out the trash" thing is important to now?

Repeat after me: SEX CAN SOLVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS.  You do not need to pay a therapist so that he or she can reemphasize the importance of journalizing your feelings.  And you certainly don't need to watch Dr. Phil giving testimony about date night with the wife.  Instead, turn to the Lifetime Movie Channel on your local cable network and watch one of those drama-filled relationship movies (that are normally fused with the softest porn ever created by man) and have a good lustful go at it. And afterwards, I'm sure the two of you will be more than happy to work out that trash removal schedule... or whatever.

Saturday, August 2, 2014

Apologies Aren't Enough

No one gives a rip about apologies. Once you've done the act you're going to be labeled as a theft or a drug user; and in the case of professional football player Ray Rice, a wife beater until your last day on this earth.

No one cares that he's made amends with his wife about the matter (one which she shares the blame); and no one cares that he has admitted his faults publicly for a something that is a million times more personal than it is public. Does the apology sound truthful enough for us? That's where our thoughts lie. Is it truth enough for us? For us?!

Look, sports commentator Stephen A. Smith got into a little hot water during the week for saying that Rice's booky boo (and basically, all women for that matter) are just as responsible for domestic violence as the men. Well, that could possibly be true; but that's not the issue right now. And many feel that the two-game suspension which Rice received as punishment for his actions was a minor consequence in comparison to the one year suspensions that are handed down to athletes who got caught for illegal drug use. That too is also a matter of interest; but that also is a whole different matter. The issue here is about us and our lack of empathy for fellow humans.. Us feeling that we are both the judge and the jury.  I've even heard professional news reporters say that he didn't seem apologetic enough, or the second public apology seemed more sincere than the first.  I mean, who the freak are we to judge?

There is one thing that is for certain here.  We don not know what happened in that elevator prior to seeing his fiance' apparently unconscious outside of an elevator. Without a doubt it was a horrible sight; yet still, the commissioner of the league (who saw the incident in its entirety by footage which we will probably never see) still managed to suspended Rice for only two games.  A commissioner, who knows fully well that he will be jeered upon sight for the remainder of the year, still felt that what he saw via censored footage has an end result that comes close to justifying the matter entirely.

So what do I say about it all?  It's simple; don't judge Ray Rice.  To be honest with you, I'm a Baltimore Ravens fan and I wouldn't have cared if he got suspended for the entire season, or even for the remainder of his career. I don't think he's been the same type of player since his 2011 season.  I don't think the team really need him; and I really don't expect much from him once he returns.  But what I do know is that the man said he was sorry. And if his apology is good enough for his wife then who in-the-hell am I to judge otherwise.