He's young, handsome, and talented; he's nearly every woman's dream. Those were the words used to describe Catcher Jones, the fictional character in the novel, Twelve Lessons From Women. Those words can also be used to describe Jameis Winston, the quarterback for Florida State University who was recently accused of raping a young woman. The difference between the two is that Catcher Jones's story is about understanding women; it has nothing to do with football. On the other hand, the story of Jameis Winston is all about the culture of football; and apparently, it wants very little to do with anything else.
We were all recently informed that Jameis Winston, an All-America player and future professional athlete, would not be charged with a sexual assault that allegedly occurred a year ago. The matter received national exposure from the media. The victim, whose name has been protected, told police at that time that she had been raped. Well, of course, its her words against his; however, the issue took a turn when Winston's DNA placed him at the scene of the crime by way of semen found in her underwear. Also in her underwear was the semen of another man. Yep, that's right..another man.
Okay, so here it is. Young lady is out with friends. Young woman is drinking; however, she's not drinking an extremely large amount of alcohol. She initially kicks it with a Florida State football player; but not Jameis Winston. She has sex with the guy she meets, and as planned by the guys, in comes the other guy to take over in the sexual escapade because (maybe you didn't know this but) it aint no fun unless the homies get....well, you know the rest. And believe me, that line of thinking is a part of the culture in big time college athletics all over the country.
What? You didn't know that? Come on. You've never heard the stories? Well let me share a story or two since we're on the subject of uh... sharing. As a guy who has been around the culture of college athletes and who has been around the culture of fraternities; guys will try the most simple and the most perverted of things that you could possibly imagine. The stories are rampant of the college girl who became star-strucked over the muscles and brawn of a young athlete and is then pushed to do a bit more than what she had intended to do. Hell, I know one case where two college athletes had sex with two females, made a plan to meet in the bathroom in the middle of the night so that they could pull an ole switch-a-roo with the girls just for the sake of seeing if they could get away with it. On that particular night the girls caught on and angrily left the two behind. Laughter and high-fives ensued for the guys as they were pleased for simply making the attempt. Well, yes...true freakin' story. I'm sure that some of you can recall similar situations.
What I'm getting at is that people should know that this type of behavior happens often. Young adults shouldn't be pressured into doing anything that they don't want to do. Mothers and fathers, listen to me. Don't be afraid to have conversations with your daughters (and sons) about certain sexual behaviors that you know exist but are too embarrassed to talk about. I'm basically telling you that sharing sex partners in college is alive and rampant. And if you're not a sexual juggeraunt who is in to freaky partner-sharing then don't put yourself, or a loved one, in a position where such behavior is accustomed, accepted, and even expected.
Jameis Winston is not a rapist. I honestly don't know what type of guy he is. But what I do know is that he has a presiding position in a culture where sharing women runs rampant. I mean, surely your mother raised you better than that, Jameis Winston. Unlessss.... she was a little too embarrassed to talk to you about it.